Between Us: Women Of Letters

Between Us: Women Of Letters

by McGuire Michaela & Hardy Marieke

Paperback / softback Publication Date: 19/11/2014

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Writing a letter can be an act of confession or celebration, while receiving one can bring joy, insight and vivid memories. Ambassadors for correspondence Marieke Hardy and Michaela McGuire have lured some of our best and brightest to the literary afternoons of Women of Letters to write and read missives of all kinds. Bestselling novelist Hannah Kent exchanges letters about books, editing and synchronicity with her publisher Alex Craig. Intimate and outrageous declarations of love and friendship are shared between actor Rhys Muldoon and musician Kram. And award-winning cartoonist First Dog on the Moon expresses his affection for his editor Sophie Black through drawings (while she sticks to the written word). Between Us is an inspiring and engaging collection of all-new letters from some of Australia's best-loved people. Praise for the Women of Letters series: 'Entertaining and heartfelt.' Herald Sun 'A collection of rib-tickling and soul-baring letters.' Sun-Herald 'The individual voices of the authors shine through, sometimes lighthearted and whimsical, sometimes poignant and nostalgic.' Courier-Mail All royalties for the book will go to Edgar's Mission animal rescue shelter.
ISBN:
9780670078325
Category:
Literary essays
Format:
Paperback / softback
Publication Date:
19-11-2014
Publisher:
Penguin Australia Pty Ltd
Pages:
368
Dimensions (mm):
214x154x30mm
Weight:
0.45kg
Between Us: Women of Letters Extract

A Letter to My Wake-Up Call by Tracey Spicer

Dear Mum,

I'm so sorry I didn't kill you.

I came close, believe me.

The pillow was millimetres from your mouth.


But I just couldn't do it.


How could I take life from the one who gave it to me?

My suckler and snuggler, role model and mentor, nurturer and nemesis: yes, you were all of those things. To your daughters you were an impossible picture of perfection.

Successful career woman, devoted wife, loving mother – a feminist before your time – you laid out your manifesto: 'I want you to be independent women. You don't have to have babies. The world is your oyster. Go out there and show them what you're made of! Who says you have to be sugar and spice and all things nice?'

Brave, bold and beautiful, you always called a spade a bloody shovel.


Possessed of a wicked wit, you could cut to the quick.


That humour came in handy the day you were diagnosed.


The oncologist held up an X-ray, dappled with snowflakes (unusual, on a sunny day in March).


'You can see the cancer here, here, here . . . and here,' he said. 'It has spread from the pancreas to the lungs. Any chemotherapy will be palliative.' 

You turned to Dad with a wry smile: 'Might as well go outside for a smoke. No point giving up now!'

I had to laugh.


At a family meeting that night, you were Chairman of the Board.

Speaking simply yet eloquently, you set KPIs for the coming months.

There was to be no pity, no moping and no wailing: but there must be mercy.

A conversation we'd had many times around the dinner table suddenly had currency.


'If I lose control of my faculties then put me down,' you said, clearly. 'They do it to dogs. Why can't they do it with us, as well?'

We all agreed.

Voluntary euthanasia had never been up for debate in our house: it was a given.

The next six months were the worst – and best – of my life.

We looked at old photos, decorated with '70s flares, floppy sunhats and floral jumpsuits.

(Incidentally, why did you sew matching outfits for Suzie and me? We weren't even twins! I should have taken you to The Hague for those purple and green smocks. They were a crime against humanity.)

You gazed at me lovingly as I stabbed needles into your stomach, managed to keep down a modicum of meals, and patiently painted shadow boxes as precious keepsakes.

We laughed at the bandanas you made us to wear to your chemo sessions, my dreadful Manuel impressions in the kitchen, and the stupid things people said when they dropped by.

'Oh, we know it's terminal. But it's a gift, isn't it? All this special time you'll be having together in these next few months,' they'd sigh. 

Well, if that's a fucking gift, I want a refund. It's clearly faulty.

One day, it all got too much. We could no longer care for you at home.


We drew up a roster so there was always someone to hold your hand during those bright sunny days and dark desperate nights.

Your screams of pain were bloodcurdling.

It was a Tuesday, I think, when I pinned the oncologist to the wall.

'Is there nothing else you can do you for my mother's pain?' I pleaded. 'Can't you up the morphine to put her out of her misery?' 

'If I do that, I'll lose my job. I'm sorry,' he answered, kindly.


We asked the nurses, 'Please, someone, anyone, end this godforsaken suffering.'

(Which was a big call for an atheist; I had been forsaken long before this.)

They, too, were kind, patting us on the back, saying, 'There, there. It won't be much longer now.' It made me wonder – how long is too long?

Is there a mathematical equation for this?
'

I've heard three shrieks, five hollers, and one 'Please, kill me now,' is that enough, nurse?'


So we decided to do it ourselves.
 Suzie stood there all night pressing that bloody red button to flood your body with morphine.

The next day she showed me the bruise on her thumb.

'I know I could go to jail but I don't care,' she declared. But her bravery was for naught.
 

You kept breathing. And writhing. And screaming.

And so, at 3 a.m., I got up from the recliner chair, lifting the pillow I had wedged behind my back. 

I told you I loved you. And I lowered the pillow over your face.


It hovered there for what seemed like an eternity.


But in the end, I couldn't do it.

I was weak. A coward. Not my mother's daughter. I collapsed on the floor, sobbing.

You must have known; you died hours later.

Finally, you were in peace.

Mum, I hope you forgive me.

Not for the clumsy way I've written this letter (you were always a masterful wordsmith) but for not having the courage to help you when you needed it most.

If it's any comfort, Dad, Suzie and I are campaigning for voluntary euthanasia. 

This was my wake-up call.

Let your suffering – and that of so many others – be a lesson to those short-sighted, selfish, puerile politicians who refuse to show compassion to their fellow man. And woman.

How many of them have seen someone they love die in agony, and live with feelings of grief, regret and helplessness?

Like I do.

Love you, Mum.

 
Your daughter,

Tracey

xxx
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