Can you understand how it feels to be divided by all you ever known, and conquered by all you ever loved? In "I Don't Know Who I am" Sarah Grady, learned early in her marriage how to shut up when a man speaks and how to be submissive. Nothing she did was good enough especially when his first wife and children disapproved. Now the survival instincts of fight or flight must kick in for her to stay alive but how can she if she is playing with her heart and not her mind.