This book is a compilation of two previously published books, originally written in Dutch: “Ik wil je beheersen!” (I want to control you!) and “BDSM, ik beheers je!” (BDSM, I control you!) by the same author. Large parts were removed from the first editions, but what was retained has also been thoroughly revised, updated and supplemented.

A selection of the content: BDSM: the game of power and powerlessness – Honest Domination – Submission without losing yourself – Switching – Partner selection – You are in a BDSM-less relationship. What are your options now? – BDSM Mentoring – Desires and limits – A range of fantasies and desires – A challenge to see, learn, understand and act – Risks and pitfalls – Which hormones are involved? – Special forms of experiencing sexuality in relation to BDSM – Lexicon – Testimonials.

Like the two previous editions, this book is written for people who think they have BDSM needs, have found them but don't really know what to do with them and anyone with a more than average interest in BDSM and kinky sex. It contains dozens of testimonials from people sharing their experiences with BDSM.

This book also contains numerous color photos, illustrations and diagrams.

Note that this book was translated by individuals for whom English is not the first language, which may result in variations among British, American, and other forms of English. We acknowledge any inaccuracies and imperfections.

It is an e-book in EPUB format for which you need a KOBO e-reader, or another reader that can handle this format.

"I’ve got the power! – How to control power and powerlessness in BDSM" has 560 pages and is a publication of Stichting Info BDSM (2025).